Being a bigger woman and owning it.

I can assure you, it is not easy to love yourself when you look in the mirror and see only ways you would like to change or improve how you look.

“You are a big girl, you could lose some fat…”

Ever the encouraging words that someone who struggles with weight and body image would LOVE to hear when they are mid conversation. I deflect, I pretend not to be frustrated and annoyed at the absurd notion that a human being feels they have the right to tell another human being how they should and shouldn’t look. That one person would have the audacity to tell another person what they should be doing with their body, let alone a blood relative and supposed family cheerleader. Pot. Kettle. Enough said.

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2017’s hurdles and how I learned to jump

I have many hopes and dreams for myself, my family and my blog but I am learning that I need only worry about one thing at a time.

I have spent quite some time reflecting over the last few weeks on the year that was and how the events in 2017 shaped me into who I am today and yet it has taken me a long time to put into words the hopes and dreams I have for 2018 and actually move on from what I went through last year. I think it was an easy way out for me to take the ‘hard done by’ route, the line of thinking that saw me self-victimised and feeling as though the world was against me – only now do I understand that I had to go through last year to get here, where I am today and I am extremely grateful.

To tell you where I am going, I must first explain (as briefly as possible) where I have been.

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